good article steve, thanks!
last fall i decided to go for it and explore a relationship with someone i feel very strong attraction to but have many logical reasons to avoid (one being distance; we don't live in the same city). the idea of natural, biological attraction is interesting and appealing.
it's a very freeing feeling to let go of the logical and practical, even when it's a huge internal challenge. i am 26 and was a bit blindsided when i met this person and started thinking of children - the attraction felt natural and animalistic - i want this man as my mate! however, it also feels like this natural, maybe even hormonal, attraction enlivens my possessive and scarcity instincts!! oh well. an injection of logic might help
the attraction is strong enough to explore and embrace the challenges of a long distance, hopefully long term, poly/open relationship.