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Originally Posted by Want2BHonest  I want to live the same reality with someone that I love. I want us to build a future together. I want us to raise children together. I want us to plan for the future together. I want to support his goals and for him to support mine in more ways than just being girlfriend/boyfriend. And, since I'm not into shacking up, I don't see how that can happen if we are not working toward marriage. |
Sounds to me like you need to talk to him and stop pressuring him.
He hasn't told you that he'll never get married, has he?
If not, then he'll come around in his own time. If you want those things, then stop focusing on trying to control him toward giving you a sheet of paper and start focusing on those plans and have discussions with him about those things.
Release control of the outcome and all those things you worry about will take care of themselves. Your only goal here is to move the relationship in the direction you want it and see if that's the direction he wants to go. You can't force him or shame him into marrying you, that will only create resentment. Instead, you need to communicate with each other and find out if he wants the same things out of life as you do. If he doesn't, then you are incompatibile. If he does, then stop pressuring him and let him come around in his time. If his time does not seem to be matching up with your time, then you are incompatible.