Interesting post.
I used to want a man who was opposite to me, but "opposite to me" means practical and grounded in this world, which meant that they were so practical and grounded that they didn't like me. Such men were also so "hard" and unfeeling, or hard-hearted (or judgmental with these "rules") that I didn't feel safe being myself with them. They didn't understand me and thus didn't appreciate me either. I just go into a shell when faced with people like that, and also when faced with people, like extroverts, who don't "make space" for me. I found that men who are more sensitive and "soft" and less intellectual make a safe environment for me to be myself and to be free. Unfortunately, though, their qualities are not ideal for a love relationship for me. So I still haven't found the right combination in a man.
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