real user name, when I lost the girl I'd felt the most love and attraction to in my entire life, it was shattering.
But it took me a while to realize that while yes, it was painful, I was using her leaving as an excuse to wallow in self-pity and wreck my life.
real user name, I'm gonna give you some tough love: you're using her leaving you as an excuse to wallow in self-pity and wreck you life.
Now for the good news: you going out and doing positive things for yourself with friends and meeting other girls is a good sign that you want to make things better. You're not entirely without hope and you still have that spark of positivity driving you.
Now you need to take that spark and fan it into a flame.
Hey, I know how you feel. Trust me, I've been there. But the difference between me now and me then is now I know, and feel, that I and only I have the real power and responsibility for who I am, how I respond and what I'll do, and nobody else can and should take that power away from me.
You have to grow into your own power and realize that who you are comes from inside, even what you're feeling now, take ownership of it and realize that the road to something better is something you have to make yourself walk step by step, no matter how tough it may be.
My heart is with you.
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