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rocksupreme · 05-06-2009, 04:11 PM

If you have (concrete) plans to get together again, it can. But an open-ended long-distance thing is just a very sorry limbo state that is best resolved.

Honestly, if you are going to be apart for "who knows how long," it would be better to be open about the fact that you both have emotional needs in the meantime. You may try an open relationship, or just say to each other "if we have a second chance in the future, let's try again." You may just have to let go.

I had to spend a 20 months on the opposite side of the world from my girlfriend. But now we're living together happily, and we'll be getting married this year.

It isn't easy, but it is possible.

05-06-2009, 04:11 PM	#2 (permalink)
rocksupreme Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Osaka Posts: 455	If you have (concrete) plans to get together again, it can. But an open-ended long-distance thing is just a very sorry limbo state that is best resolved. Honestly, if you are going to be apart for "who knows how long," it would be better to be open about the fact that you both have emotional needs in the meantime. You may try an open relationship, or just say to each other "if we have a second chance in the future, let's try again." You may just have to let go. I had to spend a 20 months on the opposite side of the world from my girlfriend. But now we're living together happily, and we'll be getting married this year. It isn't easy, but it is possible. Last edited by rocksupreme; 05-07-2009 at 03:33 AM.