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Originally Posted by Brutha  See, the world outside is exactly like it should be. There nothing to fear.
Attaching your identity to being fearless produce anxiety.
That has to be really challenging for your worldview, no wonder why you are as eager to project the emotional need to be at home at other people.
Emotional health is about excepting your own emotions and your own desires. Different people have different desire and that's completely okay.
Surpressing emotions makes them control yourself and they therefore produce fear.
You can either start with other people and look at the things they desire and accept their desires or you can firstly look at yourself and the things you desire.
The world is fine as it is. There no need to prove something by fulfilling some role.
You probably have heard David DeAngelo talking about emotions and how they effect your judgment. Fear makes people clinge on old traditions and fear makes people think that's there a way things should be.
That you should be a man.
That women should fulfill the role of the women.
Explore your fear. What's there too fear about woman who don't fulfill roles.
What's there to fear about man not fulfilling roles.
What's there to fear about yourself not fulfilling roles?
The world is fine as it is. People desires are perfectly okay. You don't have to suppress them. That's isn't emotionally healthy.
It isn't emotionally healthy either for other people like woman to suppress their own desires to have success.
Emotions health is not about fulfilling some role model but about excepting your desires. Then they don't control you anymore. Puff. |
Roles..again.. This has nothing to do with that topic. I have my standards of life and they might be higher than those of other's. I like my standards I find them fascinating (let's talk about manly standards) and want to be so. It's my path. I have to become that, not change the standards... They are good, I choose them. It is just hard to live up to them. On the other hand if it was easy then I'd be probably be standing in one place..