[GrGrimm]

I've read the numerous posts here. Most seem to agree with you that your insecurity is the problem. I'll agree what you're doing is just going to drive you nuts and maybe he is as great as you say. But none of us have ever met this guy, have we? I want to firstly validate your feelings of insecurity. It's natural to feel this way and is actually helpful (to warn you) IF there is something to worry about. Now, couple questions--- Are these established friends or are these new friends that he's going out with? If he goes out "as friends" with new girl after new girl, it sounds to me like he's still on the prowl. Maybe he'd never cheat on you, but what is he getting out of these friendships. I find it hard to believe he can't recognize when a girl has the hots for him, time after time. Maybe he likes being generous and leading them on (just dancing on the line but not crossing it) because it flatters his ego and helps with his own insecurity. If these are people he's known as friends, you might need to get a grip and respect his friendships. BUT how open are these friendships? Does he make them more of a priority than you? Does he invite you to come along>? Do you get along with the girls. Are they nice to you, or do they respond to you being nice to them. Is he affectionate with you in front of them? If he isn't doing anything shady, you need to just stop checking his email, and he needs to respect some boundries so you are comfortable. Yes, women are territorial. They also like to play alpha female competions sometimes and see whether or not they can be the better woman by winning a particular male. So, yes he should be able to have other plutonic relationships, but he shouldn't be acting like he's single. So, the point is, maybe he's not so great. As Kurt Cobain said. "Just because you're paranoid, doesn't meen they're not after you." Only you can know whether or not he's doing anything to give these girls the wrong idea. Only you can know whether his personality is something you can accept- if he's naturally a flirt, or needs ego gratification from other girls, and you don't care for it, you may have to decide thats not the kind of partner you need at this time...