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Originally Posted by chrystall  I've never felt this easy and comfortable with anyone in my life, and we have an amazing connection, both emotionally and physically. He's said, several times, that he wants to marry and I feel this may be the love of my life. . |
You are caught between two hard choices putting a side your career and family in favor of the love of your life or putting a side your love for the sake of the family and career. Do you follow your heart or your mind, do your feelings or intellect play any role in your decision making as far as matters of the heart are concerned? This is not an impossible decision if the two of you choose to put your feelings before your minds, but unfeasible if you decide to use your minds.
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Originally Posted by chrystall His proposition was at first that he come and see if he could find a job in my country for a while. We've done a few visits over the year, the mandatory parental meetings etc. Last month, he announced that it would not be possible for him to try this, due to personal responsibility to family, job situation, the fact that my country just doesnt feel like home (based on a 2 week trip) etc. I kind of get his point, he's an immigrant in the country already (altho a national) and immigrating once again is never fun. I've tried suggesting meeting halfway, picking neithers country, and starting afresh together. He turned that down too, due to responsibilities to parents. I'm not thrilled about moving to the States, I have family, friends and career here. We discussed this, and in order for us to continue, I said I could reconsider moving. . |
Both of you are somehow tied to your families, friends, countries and jobs no wonder you are soul mates and a perfect match for that matter. One has to let go or you will lose what you share and treasure. The choice as to who should do that must be based on pros and cons, merits and demerits of both your preferences.