When one meditates, especially if one has recently started a practice, one will find that one develops a change in association, whereby some persons who were close seem far away, and some who were not even in the vicinity become close.
This is because intrinsic changes occur in the psyche through meditation. One might reach a deeper level of the self and then one’s surface or cultural personality changes. Others notice the change. Those who were close and who feel as if they are losing you, panic and do things to try to maintain your association in an effort to keep you on the near and dear side of their life.
In advanced stages of meditation this is handled by being kind to such persons even though one realizes that the relationship with them is superficial. One understands that if such persons are hurt, then the pain has to be absorbed by somebody and so one maintains an association even if it is no long of great value as it was before.
However in the beginning stages of meditation, one cannot do this proficiently and therefore one should try to gradually decrease the associations which seem to hamper spiritual advancement.
Meditation opens up the subconscious and brings out the other you(s), the you from this past life and from that past life, and when that surfaces in the conscious mind one seems to have changed even to relatives. They were used to just the surface self which was recently created in this life, and when meditation opens the psyche and the deeper self moves into the conscious mind, it can frighten people who knew you before and were only familiar with the recent cultural identity of you.
Eventually you will reach a stage in meditation where a compassion and caring interest develops, one which you can express without drawing yourself totally into the surface self which others are familiar with.
One way to conceive of this is to study how mothers do baby talk. The mother assumes a completely different mood but it is based on a need to nurture the child. So the mother assumes a sort of fairy tale character just to accommodate and relate to the infant. So in advanced meditation one does a sort of surface talk to relate to persons who have not ventured into their deeper self. And through that their anxiety over one’s development which to them means that you are leaving their company, goes away. |