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andrew · 11-06-2006, 10:57 PM

No, I understand. Without baring too much into my painful childhood social life, I was a kid that always got picked on and sat alone at lunch until about my junior year of highschool. Needless to say, that's when I had my major life shift, and became a totaly new person. So it wasn't that I was naturaly intraverted, but my peers pretty much forced me into solitude (lets disregard my faults for the sake).

So to get to your question. I have no trouble befriending people and getting along with them now, and when I hang out with people it's a great time. But as far as going out to meet new friends, that's kind of hard to just "go out". I mean, I'm 19, I goto school a little bit and that has helped. But what about when you're too old? I just moved here and had to make all new friends. I've been here for over a year and I have pathetic social life. So i can understand where you're coming from on how to 'just meet people'.

I really don't have any good, non hypocritical advice on how to meet friends. I mean if I was in a group gathering and there's an activity going on, sure I'd make friendly with them and have a good time, but taking that and becoming REAL friends, I have no idea. I suppose I could get their number and be like "hey let's hang out". They're like sure okay, but then I never hear from them again. I also really don't know what to do with a semi stranger that's fun around here. I mean I'm too young to goto a club or bar or anything.

So I don't think the problem is MAKING the friends, it's taking that creation and turning it into an active FRIENDSHIP.

I was kinda rambling, but maybe it's insightful in some way.

11-06-2006, 10:57 PM	#2 (permalink)
andrew Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: California, USA Posts: 593	No, I understand. Without baring too much into my painful childhood social life, I was a kid that always got picked on and sat alone at lunch until about my junior year of highschool. Needless to say, that's when I had my major life shift, and became a totaly new person. So it wasn't that I was naturaly intraverted, but my peers pretty much forced me into solitude (lets disregard my faults for the sake). So to get to your question. I have no trouble befriending people and getting along with them now, and when I hang out with people it's a great time. But as far as going out to meet new friends, that's kind of hard to just "go out". I mean, I'm 19, I goto school a little bit and that has helped. But what about when you're too old? I just moved here and had to make all new friends. I've been here for over a year and I have pathetic social life. So i can understand where you're coming from on how to 'just meet people'. I really don't have any good, non hypocritical advice on how to meet friends. I mean if I was in a group gathering and there's an activity going on, sure I'd make friendly with them and have a good time, but taking that and becoming REAL friends, I have no idea. I suppose I could get their number and be like "hey let's hang out". They're like sure okay, but then I never hear from them again. I also really don't know what to do with a semi stranger that's fun around here. I mean I'm too young to goto a club or bar or anything. So I don't think the problem is MAKING the friends, it's taking that creation and turning it into an active FRIENDSHIP. I was kinda rambling, but maybe it's insightful in some way.