Whew, I've read a bunch of threads today that have made me VERY happy to be a lesbian!! So many assumptions about the ways men or women are and how heterosexual relationships work that I don't have to deal with. Speaking of, is there anyone else here who is gay? I don't think I've noticed anyone else.
In answer to the question: depending on the reason for the gain, I wouldn't necessarily break up with a partner if she gained weight or went slovenly--temporarily. It would absolutely affect how attracted I was to her and how I felt about sex, because unlike the stereotypes thrown about, I do care about visual attractiveness and consider sex a major part of my relationships. I would try to get involved earlier on during whatever was causing the change (one of my exs became very depressed after the death of her sister and it did take a few months of sloth and unhappiness for her to heal *on her own time, not mine* and come back to herself), and if I saw that she wasn't going to address the problems, I would re-evaluate the relationship based on that.
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