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aphorist · 05-02-2009, 07:46 AM

Hey y'all,

So I've been growing a bit lately and I've come up against a wall which I'm hoping some of you may be able to help me get around. I'm in undergraduate college and my friendships seem to be fulfilling less and less of what I crave. I really do love my friends, but there's an increasing rift in our relationships.

Whenever two of us or a group gets together I'm really kind of just there to enjoy their company. My friends talk about the social dramas around them, which are fine, but I'm usually uninterested and so I'm a little on the outside. I do enjoy their company, but I also wish for thought provoking conversation. When I do add in my thoughts, the conversation regresses very quickly.

I don't want to force myself upon my friends, but I do feel like it may be time for me to move on. That's where I get stuck. I don't know how to make these types of friends. I've tried some personal ads, but haven't found anyone who wants to just sit and chat about life or conscious development. I'm also not sure that I want to hang out with people who are 10, 20, or 30 years older than I am. I'm still a kid, and would like to make bonds with people who come from this viewpoint.

And as much as I like chatting online in forums like this one, personal interaction is much more satisfying. Any thoughts?

Thanks!!

05-02-2009, 07:46 AM	#1 (permalink)
aphorist Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 228	Fulfilling Friendships Help Hey y'all, So I've been growing a bit lately and I've come up against a wall which I'm hoping some of you may be able to help me get around. I'm in undergraduate college and my friendships seem to be fulfilling less and less of what I crave. I really do love my friends, but there's an increasing rift in our relationships. Whenever two of us or a group gets together I'm really kind of just there to enjoy their company. My friends talk about the social dramas around them, which are fine, but I'm usually uninterested and so I'm a little on the outside. I do enjoy their company, but I also wish for thought provoking conversation. When I do add in my thoughts, the conversation regresses very quickly. I don't want to force myself upon my friends, but I do feel like it may be time for me to move on. That's where I get stuck. I don't know how to make these types of friends. I've tried some personal ads, but haven't found anyone who wants to just sit and chat about life or conscious development. I'm also not sure that I want to hang out with people who are 10, 20, or 30 years older than I am. I'm still a kid, and would like to make bonds with people who come from this viewpoint. And as much as I like chatting online in forums like this one, personal interaction is much more satisfying. Any thoughts? Thanks!!