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Old 05-01-2009, 12:01 PM   #2 (permalink)
spirit4711
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I suggest making a list of scenarios and write down and discuss with each other:

- you go live with him

- he goes live with you

- you move together to a new country

- you have a long distance relationship

- you end the relationship

- you change the relationship into friendship

- ...

For each of the scenarios, you both write down:

- what do I gain?
- what do I lose?
- what remains the same?

It might give you both clarity.

You write that you feel he's not moving at all, only 1 scenario seems possible for him. Maybe that stays that way. Don't get lost in beliefs like 'true love means ...'. Just find out together if your relationship should continue and in what way.
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