It's funny, I never really had that many good friends. HUGE issue in my life. Then about my last 2 years of highschool I started getting some. One of my best friends and I had a falling out, and we used to do everything. That was only about a year or two long one though. I owe a lot to him though. But I digress.
So I graduated and moved all the way across the country. The next christmas I went back and spent most of the time with another 'best' friend. Great! It was a blast. Now this last Christmas I went back, and called him up a few times with no answer/call back. I saw him at that party and we had a great time like always, make sure he had my number, and yet 2 weeks went by and nothing. I was really bummed.
To not start steering thing to my issues, I just have to say I learn a lot about friendships. The majority of them are temporary! It's something that I really hate, because I've had so little, I want to keep them all. It just doesn't work that way, and I'm trying to tell myself it's nothing personal. With that friend that didn't call back, I'm sure he wasn't like "oh look, it's andrew, screw him. click." So as unfortunate as it seems, I think it's really hard to find those few friends that genuinely care about you forever.
Side note: my father has had 3 best friends since he was in elementary school. He still talks to them very frequently, 30 years later. They are all great group of guys. I've always wanted something like that, so I suppose my expectations are really high. |