Originally Posted by lisalisa
Do I stay friends, or keep contact reduced?
I best start off saying that there is no hard formula to this, The Process really starts and ends with your INTERNALS. Thats why I am pleased for you as you have said you are concentrating on yourself, because if not then you will manifest the same situation again down the line.
You are spot on, you cannot manifest someone love you. There is loads written on The Process about finding someone NEW but little or nothing about reunions ... the thing is you have a HEAD start because you ALREADY have the connection.
Ok you love him, but in what way? Does he "complete" you or are you already completed but now you understand just HOW much you love him?
Its kinda spooky because my I am in the middle of The Process of manifesting my previous love. She has done ALMOST exactly what you have done. The "basic essence" of "that story" is that towards the beginning of our "time out" she became very aggressive towards me, total confusion, she tried friendship contact then she couldn't deal with that.
In our previous contact together via email I could see that she was super cold, really in her "dark" place, but I finished off with a totally "in the moment" email, telling her my love and gratitude for her and left the opening for her.
Now - you want me to answer (especially from a fellas point of view) ... you may not like what I am going to say but I would say ... what does your INTUITION say? If you can take away logic ...stop looking for external validation of does he still love you? Does he love you romantically or platonically etc etc etc. Don't use your energy on your CONSCIOUS side.
If you completely clear on your inside, you don't NEED anything to MAKE you happy, you don't NEED anything to FEEL love, that you love and respect yourself, then use The Process ... ask, receive and then DETACH and KNOW that he is yours.
When your LOGICALLY mind calms down from the constant chatter, you will have the most intense urge for "something" DO that thing.
He is just an extension of you, and make no mistake in that with The Process you CANNOT manifest something from OUTSIDE yourself, it can only come if its ALREADY PART OF YOU. Manifestations are actually externalisations from inside all of us. Thats why when you read how to operate The Process the points of belief, faith, visualisations of the object in the PRESENT tense, that you have ALREADY received it etc is SO important. You have to believe that its part of you ... a previous love already is!
Be aware also of the Law of Detachment ... if you have come to terms inside of yourself, and ready, as T33ny said you will have to put the hard effort into it and be prepared to LET GO. The more "neediness" energy that you put out to the universe the longer it will take.
The timing is critical, NOT for your reunion (IF you want it), but for when YOUR JOURNEY has completed (but also HE may have his journey to!)
In my case I am still working on my inside, my situation has shown me the areas that I need to work on, PLUS it gives time for my previous love to work on her things. I am at a place were I can continue to manifest her or choose a new one. Its my choice, and I must honour it as I now realised HOW I manifested the time out.
Honour your TRUE gentle inner voice, and do what it says, with no reation, emotion, revenge etc, it is your feedback that has always and will always guide you.
The choice has been and always will be yours