Originally Posted by lisalisa
Although I haven't been manifesting the situation, I am trying to reconcile with my ex.
We separated 6 months ago. Since then, and shortly before he left, I had started making big changes in my life - to my health and my finances. When he left I was devastated, but I had an amazing friend, who helped me pick myself up and work through the panic and anxiety of my loss to focus on myself and getting through it and better.
I am on my way to great health and emotional stability. I am seeing a counsellor and making good progress. However, I still miss my ex every day and want a chance for us to be together again.
Small positive steps I am making every day are good, but I am not sure what else to do. I have kept my distance since the separation. I wanted to talk after it, but he wasn't interested. Now, 6 months later, he made contact and wants to talk about how we are both doing. He's heard I am doing well and said he isn't very happy, although he is dating.
This time has been a great time for personal growth, and I feel stronger every day, yet I miss him terribly.
What can I do? Initially, when talking to him all those months ago, I was in tears most of the time. Now I am stronger, but I wonder if talking to him on the phone or face to face will bring the same reaction.
I'm doing my best to work through unexpressed feelings and emotion.
While I'd love to be able to talk and laugh with him like we used to, I don't want to just be friends, I want more.
Any thoughts and advice?
FANTASTIC ... you have manifested him back already!!
My first suggestion is search inside yourself DEEPLY ... do you REALLY want him back in your life. My experience is that we "create" situations in our lives and experience BOTH sides of an equation, so we can TRULY choose what we REALLY want.
If you HONESTLY answer yes then search inside as to WHY did you "intend" the time apart. You mentioned just before you started bringing changes ... it normally is because of a change of desires. Maybe (I am in a similar situation to you ... but not at the same stage as you) your soul/spirit created for you to see if you truly wanted him or not. Be aware that the "pain body" that exists in all of us will still be in him and you, and so IF you have completed all the work on YOURSELF, your limited beliefs, concepts of "failure", etc etc and are finding you are more "aligned" or "centered" WITHIN yourself (and as you have already created the contact from him it sounds like you are almost finished
) then continue creating him back.
The Process allows you to create ANYTHING you want ... so IF its him, keep doing what you are doing. The Process is all about the JOURNEY, not the end result of the manifestation. You never stop manifesting, because WHEN you get what you want, do you stop there?
NOT A CHANCE, you keep going, you keep LEARNING and GROWING INSIDE.
My view is ensure its your TRUE desire, if not, then choose another man, BUT if it is keep going "baby steps" like t33ny was saying. There is NO TIME constraint to this, if its true UNconditional love then you still have the rest of your lives together, so you don't need to have him in your arms at this very second. Tomorrow is just as good