Originally Posted by Jersey
Thanks....in reading through the threads, all your posts always seem to say just the right things. you sound like you have this whole thing down. I am about half way through the book, so i will let you know how its going or if I need help. One thing I have the hardest time with is "feeling good". Obviously I am hurting and it feels like such a contradiction to feel good? I have such a hard time keeping my thoughts positive, those negative ones always seem to fill my head? Any suggestions?
Hi Jersey, sounds like your "awakening" process has already begun. Are situations are not too disimilar but with some differences which I won't go into at this stage.
As you are starting in the LoA/IM or as I like to call all of this The Process as Holistic Star says there is a LOT to take in so take it easy. Just to say there is no formula to follow to manifestation, the whole process starts and finishes INSIDE of you.
First thing is actually be gentle with yourself. As the process starts inside of you you will start to understand more about yourself. What you are creating in your life etc. To combat the neg thoughts the first thing you must do is "accept" the "situation" you are in and then accept them. Accept that you have the thoughts, but then "observe" the thoughts but make NO JUDGEMENT on them. "Umm thats an interesting thought, I will never find another girl like her." Observe non judgementally. Observe the feelings inside of yourself and then explore your surroundings and life outside of the romantic situation. Find out the SMALLEST thing that you can be grateful for. FEEL what its like to be grateful (for that wonderful meal, beer, tree whatever).
Thats a start.
For The Process, well I suggest intutitive question/answer writing (Steve Pavlina suggested that in 1 of his audio blogs). Find out with yourself why did you "intend" the split in the first place. Are you experiencing what it is like to be away her so you can UNCONSCIOUSLY weigh up and make a decision? Do you really want her? Regardless of your answer The Process will be there always for you.
Just a kinda "heads up" be aware of your thoughts and what you say. If you say they will be together forever, then they will. Thats one of the basics of The Process, you always get what you want, by thought, word and deed.
Remember, this is PERFECT for you (and me), there is a reason why you are awaking at this point, and why its through love that you are awaking. For my story I realised in self reflection it was out of fear, I was receiving and giving unconditional love for the first time in my life, and I "manifested" our "time out" (thats what I am calling my situation).
Be gentle with yourself, as I say you have already begun your journey, and its not the end result that counts, its the journey itself.