Sorry for your loss Leroy.
Maybe you should try Seykota Tribe process, it's mainly focused for traders but not only.
If you are going to help your mother and brother form a tribe (well after all you are a tribe). I hope Seykota book can help you.
http://www.seykota.com/tribe/TT_Process/index.htm http://www.seykota.com/tribe/Book/index.htm
I hope your family finds inner peace.