I am responsible for how reality occurs for me. In reality as I play it, that means that I am responsible for everything. How reality occurs for me is that everyone (whether I see them as aspects of myself, or I see them as separate individuals in an objective sense -- I can move freely between the two points of view, because each is equally "true") has intentions and manifestations.
If a wife has sex with someone other than her husband, who is "unfaithful" -- the person who doesn't have faith in the promise that she made, or the person who doesn't have faith that the other is doing the right thing for herself by breaking her promise? A couple actually powerfully manifests "cheating" by believing it's possible to "cheat" -- and by making a vow that they will not "cheat" on each other.
It's very much like vowing never to become like your parents -- by focusing on your negative feelings, and by judging this or that behavior as wrong or bad in yourself or others, you actually are operating in the universe to dynamically build the exact thing you consciously DON'T want -- both for yourself and for others. It's funny!
As for the boss question: I'd ask myself, do I want to *get* this job (never mind my potential boss's intentions) or do I want to create a life in which I am aligned with the perfect persons to generate value, boldly and purposefully? Cuz if I'm doing the latter, I'm not going to be interested in working with an employer who isn't actively intending me. Of course, I have tools to help her to actively intend me, if that's the right step for her! (She might be a little fuzzy on the concept, and I'm doing her a favor by helping her to be present to the incredible value of working with me.
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Again, this is so whether she's an avatar or a separate objective creature. (What's a good word for this, a person who is an objectively separate, not connected, not an aspect of Oneness? The concept is so far out of my normal consciousness that I don't have handy vocabulary to express it.)
If I'm engaging with a person, I am responsible for how his intentions/manifestations occur for me. Is he a "cheater" or a "shmuck who won't hire me"? Or is he someone I love and want joy, abundance, and freedom of choice for? Is she someone who bugs me, or someone who is showing me something about myself, and therefore deserves my gratitude?
Subjective, objective.....either way, it's me, not them.