Instead of focusing your efforts on the particular woman, focus on generating the feeling of being loved (without it being conditional on any external influence).
the 4 steps of EMYLIW are
work out what you don't want - easy don't want to feel unloved
work out what you do want - want to feel love, connection, happiness etc
work at really feeling those emotions - ok so generate feelings of love and connection, really feel them, that feels good right?
allow those feelings of love and connection to come back to you. Don't focus on the HOW, just allow good feelings to come back to you.
I would also recommend using someone to work on any limiting beliefts you have. Check out EFT EFT Home - World Center for EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques)
- things like "this is the only person in the world that will make me happy" "this is my last shot at happiness" would be good to neutralise.