Hello,
A few minutes ago I responded to a
post by Sireesha about friends drifting apart and it got me thinking...
Throughout grade school I had a best friend. We went to different schools but lived very close to each other, so we always hung out and had fun. We had just about *everything* in common. But once we went to college we drifted apart and moved to different areas of the country.
I landed with the person who would later become my husband. We lived together for 7 years before getting married and are now fast approaching our second year of married life. He is without question, my best friend and soul mate.
But in light of personal development, here is my issue: I don't have any friends.
I admit, I am an introvert. I don't like to be in big crowds and deal with a lot of people. But that doesn't mean I don't enjoy the company of good friends once in a while.
Although I socialize with people at work, I don't ever hang out with anyone except my husband. My
husband has friends so as a couple we may all get together and hang out, but I don't really care for his friends.
I don't have any friends and it's something that I actually don't like to admit, it's embarassing. Some people would say "Just go and meet new people!" (my mother always tells me this). For me it's not that easy. My shyness holds me back. In fact, the only way my best friend from grade school ever became my best friend was because
she started the relationship.
I've always had problems with shyness but it's something that little by little I try to overcome. I've done well but not so well that I could develop any meaningful friendships. I also think that maybe I'm just to different from my peers. I come from a different way of life, have different values and ways of thinking about things. And I have very high standards for people who I want to be friends with. Maybe unrealistically high.
It's not that bad. As I mentioned, I'm an introvert and actually enjoy solitude, but sometimes, it would be nice to socialize with someone other than my husband.
Is anyone else in a similar situation? Or am I the only one?
