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Jersey · 04-25-2009, 07:19 PM

I will try to make a long story short...basically, I am heart broken which has driven me to search out some positive things/readings just to get me through the days. A missed connection with a girl led her to begin dating someone else; looking back (which i know i shouldnt do) there were tons of signs for us to get together. We have since become good friends and confided in each other about our feelings. We enjoy each others company and talk all the time. Unfortunately, I am friends with her and her significant other which makes it even harder for me. I justify to myself that what is meant to be will be, and the timing is just not right for us. But truth be told, its killing me. I can't stop negative thoughts from creeping into my head like "they will be together forever". (Which now I know is big time resisting) So one day, when I was feeling horrible about this situation someone handed me a book The Secret and said that someone gave it to them to read but they had not had time yet. They didnt even know what it was about but was told it had a positive msg. so they gave it to me. I read it in two days and now am onto another book, Excuse Me Your Life Is Waiting. So that is how I first found out about LOA. But I find it totally confusing and difficult. Its very difficult for me to get through a day without feeling bad about not being with this great girl; so right there I'm putting out some negative energy. Then I tell myself that I have to forget about being with her ("if it was meant to be then it will be"); that seems to go against what LOA says? Because to bring something in, I need to feel like I already have it. It's kind of a depressing and confusing situation...thinking about her makes me upset. I have tried to "feel" like what it would be like to be with her. I imagine what it would be like to come home to her, etc. I can make it very vivid in my mind and put myself there. But this goes against my whole tactic of trying to not think about her?? Is it even possible to bring another specific person into your life? I could go on and on but I think this is a good start?

04-25-2009, 07:19 PM	#1 (permalink)
Jersey Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 51	Confused I will try to make a long story short...basically, I am heart broken which has driven me to search out some positive things/readings just to get me through the days. A missed connection with a girl led her to begin dating someone else; looking back (which i know i shouldnt do) there were tons of signs for us to get together. We have since become good friends and confided in each other about our feelings. We enjoy each others company and talk all the time. Unfortunately, I am friends with her and her significant other which makes it even harder for me. I justify to myself that what is meant to be will be, and the timing is just not right for us. But truth be told, its killing me. I can't stop negative thoughts from creeping into my head like "they will be together forever". (Which now I know is big time resisting) So one day, when I was feeling horrible about this situation someone handed me a book The Secret and said that someone gave it to them to read but they had not had time yet. They didnt even know what it was about but was told it had a positive msg. so they gave it to me. I read it in two days and now am onto another book, Excuse Me Your Life Is Waiting. So that is how I first found out about LOA. But I find it totally confusing and difficult. Its very difficult for me to get through a day without feeling bad about not being with this great girl; so right there I'm putting out some negative energy. Then I tell myself that I have to forget about being with her ("if it was meant to be then it will be"); that seems to go against what LOA says? Because to bring something in, I need to feel like I already have it. It's kind of a depressing and confusing situation...thinking about her makes me upset. I have tried to "feel" like what it would be like to be with her. I imagine what it would be like to come home to her, etc. I can make it very vivid in my mind and put myself there. But this goes against my whole tactic of trying to not think about her?? Is it even possible to bring another specific person into your life? I could go on and on but I think this is a good start?