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Plays With Life · 04-24-2009, 07:16 PM

Should is uncomfortable for me too .. I don't normally look at people and think they "should" do this, or "shouldn't" do that - except when I see someone telling another person they "should" or "shouldn't" do something! Then I start thinking - "hey, you shouldn't be telling that person what they should be doing." Ironic.

I think it can mean different things to different people too:
"If you don't do it, you're a bad person" (very judgemental)
"Doing it would be useful to other people" (just an observation of fact)
"Doing it will help you to move towards that purpose" (guidance)

I don't think it's always a judgemental word. I don't know how the OP meant it in this thread, really.

04-24-2009, 07:16 PM	#18 (permalink)
Plays With Life Family Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Sitting by the fire at the Inn of the Last Home Posts: 5,799	Should is uncomfortable for me too .. I don't normally look at people and think they "should" do this, or "shouldn't" do that - except when I see someone telling another person they "should" or "shouldn't" do something! Then I start thinking - "hey, you shouldn't be telling that person what they should be doing." Ironic. I think it can mean different things to different people too: "If you don't do it, you're a bad person" (very judgemental) "Doing it would be useful to other people" (just an observation of fact) "Doing it will help you to move towards that purpose" (guidance) I don't think it's always a judgemental word. I don't know how the OP meant it in this thread, really. Last edited by Plays With Life; 04-24-2009 at 08:47 PM. Reason: Typoed 'and' as 'at' (oops!)