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Scorpio · 01-20-2007, 02:30 PM

Not showering or otherwise maintaining personal hygiene is more of a deal breaker than gaining weight. Her just becoming more of a boring home body is a different issue too, though not as bad.

One thing I don't think anyone has mentioned is that you don't just wake up one day and *ohmygod!*, your partner is 30 pounds heavier. If my girlfriend started gaining weight I would have mentioned it a lot earlier. At 10 pounds I'd probably say something.

On the whole though a woman gaining weight in a relationship is a complex issue. One big reason for weight gain is the woman feeling bored/depressed/unhappy. In that case the guy reacting negatively to it can just make the problem worse... though he's tied into the reason she gained it in the first place... it's complicated.

I also second all the posters who said "guys care about looks, expecting otherwise is unrealistic". We're attracted to the whole package, but if one or more elements starts to slide, our attraction levels are naturally going to go down.

01-20-2007, 02:30 PM	#27 (permalink)
Scorpio Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Canada Posts: 112	Not showering or otherwise maintaining personal hygiene is more of a deal breaker than gaining weight. Her just becoming more of a boring home body is a different issue too, though not as bad. One thing I don't think anyone has mentioned is that you don't just wake up one day and ohmygod!, your partner is 30 pounds heavier. If my girlfriend started gaining weight I would have mentioned it a lot earlier. At 10 pounds I'd probably say something. On the whole though a woman gaining weight in a relationship is a complex issue. One big reason for weight gain is the woman feeling bored/depressed/unhappy. In that case the guy reacting negatively to it can just make the problem worse... though he's tied into the reason she gained it in the first place... it's complicated. I also second all the posters who said "guys care about looks, expecting otherwise is unrealistic". We're attracted to the whole package, but if one or more elements starts to slide, our attraction levels are naturally going to go down. Last edited by Scorpio; 01-20-2007 at 02:32 PM.