[JoannaC]

I find this thread a little disturbing, actually. There can be so much more than just laziness at play, and it's a little sad how many of you seem to imply you would just run. Did it ever occur to you that maybe YOU might have unrealistic expectations? I remember seeing a guy on Dr. Phil who was upset that eight months after his wife had their baby, she was not back to her pre-pregnancy weight. He felt she was lazy not to go to the gym. Dr. Phil explained to him that after having a baby, her hormones were still not back to normal, she was sleep-deprived from caring for the baby, she was devoting a large part of the energy she did have to the helpless infant and not herself, and that the baby was too young to be left in gym day care, and anyway, if she did go with the baby, it would be all of this extra work on top of the workout to pack up all the baby's things, get it dressed to go out, pack up baby and gear in the car etc. Basically, the guy had completely unrealistic expectations of what should happen and when it should happen. 'High standards' to me in such a case implies a lack of compassion.