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Originally Posted by BlackWigger  Well.. if stuff like "I'm not <blah>" is only in my head, then so are the so called power and abilities I should be grateful for :/
But the truth is, alot of this stuff is noticeable by others, therefore it isn't really made up  |
Not at all, it's the difference between being able to lift 5kg, and thinking you should be able to life 10kg. One is something that actually exists in the real world, and one is something that only exists in your head. If it's noticable by other people, is it because you told them as much?
I'll take being a politician for example: Wanting to be a poilitican is real, you can feel it. Not being a politician is real, you aren't a politician. Thinking you should be a politician is completely made up, because nothing should be anything. There's just what is. It's okay to not be something.
The suffering is in the should. When you really believe you should be something you aren't, then you are creating a gap between where you are now, and where you think you should be. This gap is what causes suffering, axiety, and despair.
Goals give you focus and allow you to act, but never confuse the end of the goal with where you are now. The only reason why you feel so hopeless is because your entire life is a made up fairy tale about what it should look like by now. The first step is acceptance, just acknowledging where you are right now, and working from there. If you can master acceptance you will find peace, and the despair will leave.
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Originally Posted by BlackWigger So why bother living ? :S |
To find the joy in each moment, all the time. To experience, enjoy and grow.