| | Thank you
I came to this forum knowing that I'd find insight, compassion, and something new and relevant for me today. So, thank you, danas, for asking a question in a productive way. I realized that I, too, need help with the "life-long" manifestations, mainly, in my career.
I think the quote Angela posted (from who?) hits the nail on the head as for a way to think about it. I LOVED the part about being happy about impatience because you can then turn it into enthusiasm. Brilliant.
As far as feeling your way into it, I know it can be difficult to visualize something or someone when there isn't one. And of course, worrying "how" something will happen is a killer, but it's completely a natural response. Maybe instead of visualizing an event--having a baby, a wedding--you should imagine what it would be like as you, but in love and loved. Maybe you're sitting by yourself, in front of the computer, but there's that one major difference. That way, you don't have to bring other people into it. Also, visualizations are tricky; you can't get too detailed or you start to flow upstream. I know my one defining moment when I went downstream with love; it was when I saw my 2 friends, a couple, and how much they were in love, and I appreciated it and realized that yes, being in love might be a nice thing after all (I came from a place of "I don't want a relationship" so it's a different situation, but you get my point).
Best of luck to you. If you haven't met a special person yet, it's not any fault of yours. You haven't met that person yet, and when you do, you'll know.