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Originally Posted by TiffyLove  So other than taking responsibility for my choice of standing by him, how else can I see that I have created this into my life. |
Who made the choice for you to get involved with this guy? Who decided that he is "going through some major life stuff, though he would deny it"? Who made the decision that you don't bail on people when things get hard?
And maybe most importantly, who decided that he *should* be anything other than exactly what he is?
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I guess when it involves other people I just have a hard time seeing how I can take responsibility for it, but I do want to and am very open to any recommendations and advice.
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Don't confuse being at fault with being at cause. Being 100% responsible does not mean you are to blame (or that anyone else is, for that matter). It doesn't really help to know whose fault it is, because knowing who's to blame doesn't get you any closer to the results you want.
Being 100% responsible means recognizing that all of your choices, both conscious and unconscious, have brought you to where you are right now. That is very good news, because it means that you can make a new choice right now, one that will work better. You can also choose to keep making the same old choices, and hope you get better results. (equals insanity
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What do you think is the
one new thing you could do, say, or think that would make the biggest difference in moving towards the life you want to live?