How about backing up a single step and asking if the fear even has a right to exist? Are you accepting what you're fearful of without even questioning it's source?
After reading Steve's
How to Graduate From Christianity article last week, I really started thinking about all areas of my life in which I'm feeling fear (mostly money right now).
And then I started asking WHY do I fear these things? Are the fears I'm feeling truly anything more than possible judgment from family or strangers?
Are these perceptions simply other people's opinions of what is 'accepted' and I've just accepted that 'that's the way it is' and thus I have to go along with their opinions risking their shunning?
Can you separate the fear from why you think you need to be afraid? Can you question the source or acceptance of where the judgment began?
This is all new to me so I'm fumbling along with my thinking, but if Steve can write an article about walking away from the institution of Catholicism/Christianity because of questioning 'what is already accepted as fact,' perhaps there's a way you can get leverage (ala Tony Robbins) on the 'problem's source' itself.