Seems like the best thing to happen for both people if for you to walk away and not invest any more into this situation. Chances are it'll only get worse and not better from here on.
I don't know how well you know the girl but from what I would assume, something siginificant enough happened in her life to cause her to react to things this way. What you are seeing right now is these emotional issues surface when she doesn't feel in control of the situation. That or she's just immature still (or a combination of both).
So like I said, move on and just tell her that you're not interested in investing your time and emotions into a person who does not return anything back into the friendship.
My take on friendships is that they're like bank accounts. If you don't deposit anything, you won't be able to withdraw anything. After a while you might build up some sort of credit system (and in some cases a pretty significant one) and borrow out of the friendship. But at a certain point you have to put something back in return. It doesn't have to be of exactly equal value, just the gesture has to be significant enough to cover your "expenses". So if you've been investing into her and she hasn't into you, after a certain point just walk away. It's the same with any friendship.
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