Well, you can't really control life, you can only control your response to it. IMO, there are smart and not-so-smart ways of dealing with life and what it brings you.
Smart ways of dealing with life is what fascinates me; that's what my whole blog is about. Here is an example:
How to Keep Bad Moods From Taking you Over
All you can really do in life is just recognize where you are, accept it, pick the smartest action you can think of, and do it. This is all you need to do in life. You can deal with any situation that way.