@James81
You're confusing the attitude of the words I wrote here with my general attitude in life. Or better: my negative conclusions here are based on the input I receive from scientific research and academic texts, and also the input I have been receiving over years ever since I started exploring the field of psychology (and that goes back to almost my childhood), which I spend most of my time with.
They may have indeed shaped my own attitude, but what I am trying to say is that my way of approaching things is so connected to science/research/academics that if I want to reach a positive conclusion, I need to see empirical results of that.
(As a matter of fact, each time there is some finding e.g. in neuroplasticity that confirms how we are able to change and adapt ourselves to get the best even in the worst situations, that reinforces my own attitude and makes me even more positive! Whereas, if I read that a recent experiment found out that women generally don't like disabled people, my overall attitude slightly goes down)
Anyway, addressing the specific points...
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Originally Posted by James81 You don't do those things to "get a woman." You do those things because you know those are what's BEST for you as an individual. You do those things to show yourself you don't NEED a woman (that you can be happy on your own because you create your own happiness), and then the byproduct of those things is that you become more attractive to women because you have become independent. |
This is what I was trying to say. I pursue my health because I truly want to stay healthy. I pursue my career/interests/activities because I truly like them. I pursue my social circles and establish new ones because I like them.
But, judging the specific things that I like as an individual and comparing them to what the majority of "most beautiful women" want (both academically and through experience, observation of others etc.) is that these things won't attract the women I like. In my experience, it has attracted women whom I
don't like!!!
So, I'd rather pursue my objectives without even thinking about the byproducts.
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Originally Posted by James81 Mind sharing what your disability is? But again, there are limits from your disability, but it doesn't mean that you will inherently fail to get what you want. The interesting thing about going after what you want is that in the process of doing so, you actually discover what you NEED. |
It's related to the spine. Something that isn't completely visible, i.e. it hampers my body movements' spontaneity. A person who sees me the first time wouldn't say I am disabled but that I appear physically inactive. This is accompanied by perpetual chronic pain. (no problem for me), but the main problem is that I cannot lift
anything or do
anything with my arms and legs that requires physical strength. Except for walking. But the doctors aren't sure whether I'll be able to walk for very long.
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Originally Posted by James81 1. Your approach isn't scientific because you aren't starting with a completely unbiased hypothesis.
Your hypothesis is so general (disprove typical materialistic results of science)and you are specifically setting out to bend the science to what YOU think. |
See my paragraph above in which I described the relationship of my attitude to scientific discovery. Mmmm... so this is not science, but the way I perceive life...
But the former influences the latter.
I have no inherently negative belief system; what I am saying is that I try to base my positive expectations on valid empirical verifications.
For example, if suddenly there was a researcher saying that the people who have my specific disability will get the hottest women on Earth, I will immediately apply that to my attitude and... probably get the hottest woman on Earth!
Perhaps I was clearer about my problem this time.