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Originally Posted by FirstLife  - I am not physically attractive |
Says who? And even if it were true (which it isn't given that there are no absolutes in terms of attractiveness), who ever said it matters?
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Originally Posted by FirstLife For me, love is a very important thing and I see it as something to invest in a lot of time .../...
Of course, I can aim at increasing my status and wealth and thereby perhaps get what I want, but I really don't want to invest so much time just for a relationship with a woman. |
Paradoxal much?
And why would being fit, wealthy or charismatic be important just to find a mate? If these goals are important to you, pursue them. If they are secondary, pursue your true goals and I assure you there will be a variety of people out there who will be able to appreciate them.
Also, I have a problem with your notion of "first prize women". By that, do you mean the women you are most attracted to and who would be the best match with you? If so, then it is definitely worth pursuing ; actually it's be stupid and disrepsectful to date someone you don't believe is attractive or a good match! But the notion of prize implies a universally recognized ranking. In terms of partners or friends, there is just no such thing.
It's not about lowering your expectations and making do with what ou can get. It's about knowing what is best for you, not what society tells you to want.