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Originally Posted by FirstLife  I am starting to realize that one of the most important things of life (or we were culturally influenced to think of as important)- our mating behavior, or call it romance, love, relationships, sexuality, etc. - is an area where I am probably determined not to excel, it's the area where no matter how skillful and talented I am or can learn to become, I will never find what I really want. |
This right here, this is the reason why you haven't had a successful relationship and will never have a successful relationship until you change t his belief.
You cannot sit around telling yourself that you are going to fail and then magically expect success.
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Originally Posted by FirstLife - I am not physically attractive, thus I won't get the first prize (in a natural way! Of course, I can aim at increasing my status and wealth and thereby perhaps get what I want, but I really don't want to invest so much time just for a relationship with a woman. The time of our life is limited, well... unless I invent the immortality pill  |
Looks mean very little to women, dude. Haven't you ever looked at a couple and thought to yourself, "Damn! How in the hell did
she end up with
him?"
Your looks have absolutely jack to do with why you are unsuccessful with women. It has everything to do with your attitudes, lack of self-confidence, and negative beliefs.
The good news is, that you can actually CHANGE those, do the best with what you've got physically, and actually become very successfull with women if you take the time to reconstruct your beliefs about them (and about dating) and learned a thing or two about them.