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Rachelle · 04-10-2009, 07:55 AM

Hmm. First off, I'm kind of curious why you keep referring to your ideal romantic partner as a prize? It reminds me of the phrase "Trophy Girlfriend" or "Trophy Wife", meaning that that woman is generally "prized" for her looks but not really anything else.

Anyway... as for advice. What value do you believe you have to offer or bring to a relationship? A good relationship depends on so much more than looks, although they certainly are an undeniable factor. If you feel you aren't attractive or fit, then why not set your mind and ambition to excel in becoming fit, strong, and sexy? I think it simply takes commitment. Healthy and happy people are, generally speaking, pretty attractive.

If you become a healthy, happy and attractive individual, it's very likely you'll attract the same.

I guess my advice boils down to focusing on yourself and becoming what you perceive to be the "ideal" partner for the kind of woman you are looking for, while staying true to yourself and your ideals, and the rest will follow.

04-10-2009, 07:55 AM	#2 (permalink)
Rachelle Slave Member Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 286	Hmm. First off, I'm kind of curious why you keep referring to your ideal romantic partner as a prize? It reminds me of the phrase "Trophy Girlfriend" or "Trophy Wife", meaning that that woman is generally "prized" for her looks but not really anything else. Anyway... as for advice. What value do you believe you have to offer or bring to a relationship? A good relationship depends on so much more than looks, although they certainly are an undeniable factor. If you feel you aren't attractive or fit, then why not set your mind and ambition to excel in becoming fit, strong, and sexy? I think it simply takes commitment. Healthy and happy people are, generally speaking, pretty attractive. If you become a healthy, happy and attractive individual, it's very likely you'll attract the same. I guess my advice boils down to focusing on yourself and becoming what you perceive to be the "ideal" partner for the kind of woman you are looking for, while staying true to yourself and your ideals, and the rest will follow. Last edited by Rachelle; 04-10-2009 at 07:57 AM.