Deep stuff.
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I know I'm socially awkward and have a hard time talking to guys unless I'm drunk.
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This is the norm for many people. But unfortunately, this is not a long term strategy, unless Prince Charming gets you drunk first.
I think the biggest thing that inspired you to write this post is your absent relationship with your ex-best friend. Realize nothing you read can directly change this. Instead, we can offer you alternative perspectives that allow you to
grow, not regress.
Throughout your entire life, there will always be stable relationships that go awry. Many of my friends, some as far back as six, I never talk to anymore, outside fluff talk. You should evaluate which people you
currently have a genuinely close connection with.
I have about two. And really, I'd be satisfied with one.
That doesn't mean I don't have an abundance of "friends" or a shortage of acquaintances. It's just that people come and go. They really do. Do you recall that cliched quote by Shakespeare?
"All the world's a stage,
And all the men and women merely players:
They have their exits and their entrances;
And one man in his time plays many parts,"
Your childhood friend's exit has come. Instead, the stage shall be freed of space, for new aspiring actors to audition and ultimately play a significant role.
And those future actors will exit as well. And the actors proceeding them shall exit as well. But in doing so, slots are opened for grander experiences and connections. Let those actors leave, for they do so of there own free will, just as your own free will has decided for you to leave their plays as well.
What you need to do, is invest into a stable casting agency, that can support itself, sustaining you. An agency that can recruit talent without the reliance on drugs, an agency that enriches your life, through its
confident managers and agents, all working for
you. It will have to start small. In time, it will grow to a level that you no longer needed to
consciously manage it. To reach that level, a marketing plan is in order. You will have to assess what resources you already possess, and what you are lacking. You need to set
goals that are set in the
near-future, goals so desirable that they
pull you towards their completion.
The reason you cannot fix your relationship with your ex-best friend is because you are trying to return the friendship to what it was like in the
past. In fact, the idea of setting a goal that's past-based [like I want to lose weight so I can look like I did on my wedding night] is destined to fail right from the beginning.
Hope this helped.