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Cristal Lilly · 04-09-2009, 06:51 PM

I have some practical advice, if you care for it..
basically, every time you feel like you have been wronged, like you need to complain to a friend, or even like you've just been slightly ticked off and your mind put it on some invisible 'to complain about later when it adds up' list, don't go to your friends. keep a journal. keep it every day. think of it as your best friend in the whole world. write in it aaaaaall about all of it. let it all out there. the way you want to, the manipulated version. then when you calm down, you can go over it and look for your pattern and distinguish what was true and what is you playing the helpless wronged victim.

it could be just me, but I think it would help. that with time, you don't need to let steam out first and then analyse to see how this situation could've looked without this distortion, but instead (with the already mentioned time) you'll be able to be in that situation and know it and make yourself see it for what it is.

I hope this is somewhat practical to you.

04-09-2009, 06:51 PM	#16 (permalink)
Cristal Lilly Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 93	I have some practical advice, if you care for it.. basically, every time you feel like you have been wronged, like you need to complain to a friend, or even like you've just been slightly ticked off and your mind put it on some invisible 'to complain about later when it adds up' list, don't go to your friends. keep a journal. keep it every day. think of it as your best friend in the whole world. write in it aaaaaall about all of it. let it all out there. the way you want to, the manipulated version. then when you calm down, you can go over it and look for your pattern and distinguish what was true and what is you playing the helpless wronged victim. it could be just me, but I think it would help. that with time, you don't need to let steam out first and then analyse to see how this situation could've looked without this distortion, but instead (with the already mentioned time) you'll be able to be in that situation and know it and make yourself see it for what it is. I hope this is somewhat practical to you.