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Originally Posted by Johnny Soporno "You would be well-advised NOT to attempt any method for converting "a friend" into "Your Girlfriend", as it is enormously likely to break at least one heart (yours!) and could do more damage than that!"
"There is no such thing as 'The Friendzone' unless YOU PUT YOURSELF THERE. It ONLY exists in the mind of the person who believes they have been relegated to it.
It is a severely limiting belief, an existential handicap which prevents success from even being possible for those who choose to believe it." | Hello Johnny, are you not contradicting yourself in these two quotes? First you say that one cannot convert a friendship into more, and then you say the 'friendzone' doesn't exist. |
I'm sorry for the confusion! I NEVER suggested one couldn't convert a friendship into more! In fact, the explicit purpose of this thread was to express not-only that it was possible, but that it was DEAD EASY, if you approached it maturely.
There is no contradiction here
Where I said:
"You would be well-advised NOT to attempt any method for converting "a friend" into "Your Girlfriend", as it is enormously likely to break at least one heart (yours!) and could do more damage than that!"
I was explicitly pointing out the hazard of trying to convert a platonic friend directly into a
romantic, exclusive relationship.
THE PURPOSE OF THIS THREAD, and what I detail in the
Original Post, details simple, reliable requirements for "converting
a girl friend into
"a girlfriend"; but it is NOT intended for converting a girl friend into
"YOUR Girlfriend" - in other words, it is NOT designed to convert platonic friendships into exclusive love affairs!
It is for converting platonic friendships into "friends with benefits" relationships.
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Originally Posted by Pequod I'm wondering, is it in your opinion possible to be friends with a woman first, and add sex in the friendship later? Or can this only work when you make your intentions clear in the very beginning? |
Please go back and read the
OP It is an enabling document, and if the relationships you have with your female friends are
legitimate friendships, AND you come to accept the model I've described here, then there is an extremely high likelihood of a very positive result, and effectively no chance for there to be a negative one.
Johnny Soporno
Worthy Playboy