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Originally Posted by Pequod  Hello Johnny, are you not contradicting yourself in these two quotes? First you say that one cannot convert a friendship into more, and then you say the 'friendzone' doesn't exist.
I'm wondering, is it in your opinion possible to be friends with a woman first, and add sex in the friendship later? Or can this only work when you make your intentions clear in the very beginning?
P.S. Off course I'm asking because I have a few female friends that I would like to upgrade to friends-with-benefits  |
Trust me, the friendzone is a very real place.
He IS right in the fact that WE put ourselves there, but one you ARE there you're not going to convert it to any more than that without cutting contact for a while.
Get yourself out of that way of thinking....that you have to become her FRIEND first, then add sex. That's going to make you fail more than be a success (that is, assuming you are in a phase where you are struggling with women).
The problem, though, isn't a matter of how to define your relationships with women. The problem is one of self-confidence and denial. A lot of men thing they have to "win" her over, and that's malarky. Let HER win YOU over. YOU be the prize to be won, because you have a rich and full life. If you don't have a rich and full life and aren't happy, then stop going after women and go get a rich, full life full of happiness (easier said than done, I know, but we aren't hear because it's easy).
That's the only real "secret" there is to dating....and it's just common sense.