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Originally Posted by lrose  I don't see him often, but when I do, I have a very strong physical repulsion to having to be near him -- like a panic attack. My senses are on high alert, and I feel incredibly uncomfortable around him. If I had my way, I'd try to never see him again. |
Hi,
I feel exactly what you mean here, I have the same with my dad.
What might be a suggestion is to have a time-out of 1 year. Donīt see him, talk to him, listen to him for 1 year. Tell him you need this time and if he loves you and wants a relationship with you, he will give you that time.
That way he doesnīt have to be in your wedding and you have some time (and wonderful time it will be) where you donīt have to think about him.
When the year is over meet him for coffee together with your husband. Just short and simple and talk about nothing special.
From there, decide if you want to be in contact with him or not.
If not, then donīt. Just because he is your father you do not need to be misserable around him.
The only reason I am still in contact with my father is because he and my mom are still together and it would break her heart if I would leave (and besides I owe them money.. long story).
If anybody has any suggestions on how to break the dependency and the panic feelings without breaking off contact.. please let me (us) know!!
Good luck, and remember, nothing is more important than you being happy! You deserve that and let nobody take that away from you!