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Originally Posted by RegisteredUser  What about guys for whom the sex is just part of what they want? What they also want is to hear the woman say "I love you", call him her boyfriend. |
This model is not intended for developing exclusive & over-riding romantic relationships from existing platonic ones - it is for establishing powerful and enduring friendships in which recreational sex is an option which is not seen as jeopardizing the friendship.
If what you're after is a Boyfriend/Girlfriend dynamic, than this is explicitly not for you. Furthermore, you would be well-advised NOT to attempt any method for converting "a friend" into "
Your Girlfriend", as it is enormously likely to break at least one heart (yours!) and could do more damage than that!
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Originally Posted by RegisteredUser But what can a guy do if he wants more than to just have sex with her? Is he just blinded by the initial warm fuzzy infatuation he feels for her, and if he ever did have a relationship with her those feelings would fade? |
Infatuation is chemically-enhanced romance (ie, your hormones "drug" your mind, and make the object of your infatuation seem irresistible & flawless in your eyes) which tends to fade rapidly once a genuine relationship begins in its throes.
Normally, between a few days and eighteen months is the expected duration of infatuation, after which you will begin to see your 'beloved' without the rose-coloured lenses, faults-and-all - and she might just lose all her appeal to you - OR she might actually be ideally appropriate for you!
But the sad fact is that neither of those options is likely - what is likely is that you'll begin to find her more and more annoying and less and less attractive, until your relationship becomes more of a chore than a joy, and ultimately endures for a further six+ months before you both finally decide it's run its course, and should be abandoned.
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Originally Posted by RegisteredUser In short, I'm a mess lol So please try to get past how pathetic it is for a 35 year old guy to be asking these questions, if you could lol Thanks. |
Knowing and admitting to your problem is the most-critical step in resolving it! -
FEEL NO SHAME in searching for guidance, particularly
here, in a forum dedicated to self-improvement and personal satisfaction... and keep asking great questions!
Personally, I recommend checking out the seminar videos I'm sharing in my signature... There's an awful lot there which might serve you well!
Johnny Soporno
Worthy Playboy