Hey guys,
Here is an issue that I have been struggling with for a while now. Is it possible for best friends to drift apart? I have met my friend my first year of college, almost 16 years ago. We became good friends very fast and have been best friends every since. For the past year or so, I have been noticing that we both have changed, me more than her. We are in totally different places now. I became very goal oriented and try to do the take advantage of all the oppurtunities I have. I am very interested in taking on new things (like going back to school for graduate program, aiming for a promotion at work....) I was very different from this, when I was growing up, always shy, timid, not very outgoing, afraid to try new things. My friend on the other hand, was always outgoing, confident , always speaking her mind. Now that I am doing so many things, focusing on improving myself, my friend thinks that I have become very selfish and am interested only in myself (She told me this, when I mentioned that I don't like watching news because of all the depressing news they always glorify). There have been several incidents in the recent times that she used to put me down as much as she can, yelling at me, telling me I am not a good friend, I look old
, so on...
My problem now is that, I feel like I am letting too much negativity surround me trying to hold on to something in the past. I now am starting to think of our relationship as an obligation, instead of friendship. We had some minor rifts in the past, but I never felt this way.
Is it normal to feel this way? Any one faced similar issues in any of their relationships?