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MasterD · 04-02-2009, 07:09 PM

You have trained your surroundings how to deal with you.

As soon as you make a bit of progress, your surroundings pull you back, because they treat you as the old you and this affects your self-image again.

That's why change is so hard. You do not only have to change yourself (which is difficult in itself), but you also have to retrain your surroundings.

Also your surroundings will actively resist your change. When you change the things they use to manipulate you stop working and they don't like that. They try to pull you back to the old spot so that they can manipulate you again as they are used to. Often they succeed. Sometimes you make a breakthrough, however. This is a time where you often leave old friends behind and start seeing more other people.

This is why it is so good to leave your normal surroundings every now and then for an extended period of time. Then you only have to deal with yourself until you know people long enough in your new surroundings so that they again start to resist your change.

04-02-2009, 07:09 PM	#17 (permalink)
MasterD Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Netherlands, Amsterdam Posts: 496	You have trained your surroundings how to deal with you. As soon as you make a bit of progress, your surroundings pull you back, because they treat you as the old you and this affects your self-image again. That's why change is so hard. You do not only have to change yourself (which is difficult in itself), but you also have to retrain your surroundings. Also your surroundings will actively resist your change. When you change the things they use to manipulate you stop working and they don't like that. They try to pull you back to the old spot so that they can manipulate you again as they are used to. Often they succeed. Sometimes you make a breakthrough, however. This is a time where you often leave old friends behind and start seeing more other people. This is why it is so good to leave your normal surroundings every now and then for an extended period of time. Then you only have to deal with yourself until you know people long enough in your new surroundings so that they again start to resist your change. Last edited by MasterD; 04-02-2009 at 07:14 PM.