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smallstar · 01-17-2007, 08:54 AM

What would I do? I think there are two cases:

* She just gained 30 lbs more than she should and is perfectly happy with it - I'll probably occasionally nag about her not accompanying me to the gym, and probably bring some more health foods from the shop (nothing that I wouldn't eat by myself). I will not bother trying to transform her against her values - if fat equals happy equals sexy and sexual, I have nothing to complain. Of course, if the real problem is something else (a depression of some sort), I'll try to handle that first and the symptom (weight gain) only after that.

* She just gained 30 lbs more, constantly asking if she is too fat and complaining that she won't fit into her clothes - I refuse to listen to such nonsense, drag her to the gym with me, force her to do 100 sit-ups at home every day and to use the dance pad until fatigued. Only when she quits complaining (for one reason or another), I will quit pressuring her.

01-17-2007, 08:54 AM	#3 (permalink)
smallstar Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Helsinki, Finland Posts: 146	What would I do? I think there are two cases: * She just gained 30 lbs more than she should and is perfectly happy with it - I'll probably occasionally nag about her not accompanying me to the gym, and probably bring some more health foods from the shop (nothing that I wouldn't eat by myself). I will not bother trying to transform her against her values - if fat equals happy equals sexy and sexual, I have nothing to complain. Of course, if the real problem is something else (a depression of some sort), I'll try to handle that first and the symptom (weight gain) only after that. * She just gained 30 lbs more, constantly asking if she is too fat and complaining that she won't fit into her clothes - I refuse to listen to such nonsense, drag her to the gym with me, force her to do 100 sit-ups at home every day and to use the dance pad until fatigued. Only when she quits complaining (for one reason or another), I will quit pressuring her.