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elainevdw · 01-17-2007, 08:09 AM

I suppose another, related question is whether you'd consider it an affront to your dignity and independence to change your appearance to make your significant other happy. If they asked you, for example, to:

Wear your hair long (or short) even though you'd rather wear it short (or long)
Wear that sea green jacket they think looks great on you even though you think it's atrocious
Grow a goatee even though you think they're itchy as hell and makes you look like a doofus
Lose 30 lbs even though you think you're attractive just the way you are

What would you think? Would you feel hurt, because you thought you were uber attractive as-is, and it makes you feel like you're not good enough? Or would you feel happy to have the opportunity to do something special for them that they'd enjoy?

01-17-2007, 08:09 AM	#2 (permalink)
elainevdw Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Reno/Tahoe, NV, USA Posts: 375	I suppose another, related question is whether you'd consider it an affront to your dignity and independence to change your appearance to make your significant other happy. If they asked you, for example, to: Wear your hair long (or short) even though you'd rather wear it short (or long) Wear that sea green jacket they think looks great on you even though you think it's atrocious Grow a goatee even though you think they're itchy as hell and makes you look like a doofus Lose 30 lbs even though you think you're attractive just the way you are What would you think? Would you feel hurt, because you thought you were uber attractive as-is, and it makes you feel like you're not good enough? Or would you feel happy to have the opportunity to do something special for them that they'd enjoy? __________________ ~ Elaine.