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elainevdw · 01-17-2007, 07:54 AM

This came up in another thread, and it got me thinking. Guys, what would you think, feel, and do if your girlfriend "let herself go," so to speak? Gained 30 lbs, showered less frequently, started watching Netflix instead of going to the gym?

Ladies, feel free to chip in, too, of course!

I've had this conversation with my bf before, and his response was pretty interesting. (He didn't answer the question.) I'm not asking for advice, because my boyfriend is too awesome to dump somebody over something so superficial. But it did make me realize that it's important in a relationship, and I was interested to find out to what extent you think that's so, specifically by making you answer the age-old question: What would you do? What would you do?

Speaking for myself, I find that taking care of your body is attractive not only because it improves your physical appearance, but also because it improves your self-confidence, and your pride in your appearance. The latter actually makes more of an impression on me than the former (unless you just happen to be totally frickin' hot, in which case you probably know it, which in turn would increase your confidence, and thus attractiveness, exponentially). So what would I do if my boyfriend let himself go? Well, it depends, because the physical aspect of letting oneself go goes hand in hand with losing your pride. If it looked like his slump was becoming a permanent part of his personality, I'd have a tough decision to make, simply because it's important to me to have a well-adjusted and happy partner (understanding, of course, that people go through temporary slumps all the time). Him regaining confidence and pride would just happen to also improve his physical appearance, so we'd both win, all the way around!

01-17-2007, 07:54 AM	#1 (permalink)
elainevdw Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Reno/Tahoe, NV, USA Posts: 375	Guys: If your girlfriend "let herself go..." This came up in another thread, and it got me thinking. Guys, what would you think, feel, and do if your girlfriend "let herself go," so to speak? Gained 30 lbs, showered less frequently, started watching Netflix instead of going to the gym? Ladies, feel free to chip in, too, of course! I've had this conversation with my bf before, and his response was pretty interesting. (He didn't answer the question.) I'm not asking for advice, because my boyfriend is too awesome to dump somebody over something so superficial. But it did make me realize that it's important in a relationship, and I was interested to find out to what extent you think that's so, specifically by making you answer the age-old question: What would you do? What would you do? Speaking for myself, I find that taking care of your body is attractive not only because it improves your physical appearance, but also because it improves your self-confidence, and your pride in your appearance. The latter actually makes more of an impression on me than the former (unless you just happen to be totally frickin' hot, in which case you probably know it, which in turn would increase your confidence, and thus attractiveness, exponentially). So what would I do if my boyfriend let himself go? Well, it depends, because the physical aspect of letting oneself go goes hand in hand with losing your pride. If it looked like his slump was becoming a permanent part of his personality, I'd have a tough decision to make, simply because it's important to me to have a well-adjusted and happy partner (understanding, of course, that people go through temporary slumps all the time). Him regaining confidence and pride would just happen to also improve his physical appearance, so we'd both win, all the way around!