[Neblasian]

Hi

I (26) met this girl (20) a couple of months ago. We started out as mutual friends but later she admitted she was attracted to me. There was no chance for intimacy because she had her finals and we live fairly far apart. She and I got into a slight disagreement right before my 3 week trip to the USA. One night we were talking on the phone and she said something which I interpreted as something else. I told her this and she asked me what I thought she had said. I refused to let her know. She made this a big deal. On the night before my trip I visited her and she acts like she doesn't wants to see me. Her reason was, I gave her too much stress (what ?). I conviently calls her, she says. Why didn't I call her yesterday. I am too miserable. Blah blah blah. The next day she calls me about 4 or 5 times from work. She tells me right before I left she has something to tell me that is external from me and I can decide if I want to still be her friend. I am back home for about a week now and we talk almost everyday on the phone. She told me again we have to talk but never makes the attempt to. I guess that she's probally dating someone. I am not her bf but she should at least let me know. Today I told her to tell me what she wanted to say she said she will when she gets home from school. As I anticipated she didn't call.

Well I don't like people wasting my time or carrying me around the world so
i decided tommorow to gave her the ultimatum. " Call me when your willing to talk."

I am willing to accept everything she'll say. The problem however. is her. She gets upset very quickly and since I will tell her she wouldn't be hearing me so often if she's seeing someone, will further agrevate this weakness.

My question is, Is it possible to act with integrity without cutting her off. I mean my first reaction will be to dismiss her but this would be acting out of disappointment. I just want to do the right thing be firm yet understanding.