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C33 · 01-17-2007, 02:27 AM

I agree with the fact that porn is a masturbatory tool.

Maybe if your bf would take only 1 minute to get his pleasure when with you, you would not like it at all, so what he might be doing is using porn as titillation for masturbation and "release" his sexual energy in a way that is pleasurable for him, while not being an insult to you=not making you happy!

That might be one aspect of the porn watching. I would start getting worried if he would sexually withdraw from you in order to watch porn, if porn became an addiction. You don t say if this is a daily practice and how many hours are devoted to porn. Is it taking away from your time together?

I suggest, like another poster did, that you humor him on the situation. I also suggest you dress up like a full fledge porn star and walk OUT the door in such an outfit, like you are going out by yourself to a bar ... Let s see how he reacts when his fantasy comes to life...

Maybe, also, he secretely wants you to be more sexually agressive towards him... Maybe he thinks your sexual needs could never meet his ( somehow, there is a myth out there that men want it more than girls...), so he turns to porn to satisfy his needs, without him physically cheating on you.

The saddest thing about porn, IMOH is that it is fake, and that the actors seem to be emotionally and sensually cold and bored. The spectacle of people having sex, looking bored and uninvolved is the saddest thing about it, again, IMOH.

If your boyfriend shows love, care and interest towards you, I would not worry too much about it, and would focus on my own sexuality and enjoyment by finding personal ways to enjoy my body. Maybe it would mean pamper yourself, on any ways to feel good in your skin.

01-17-2007, 02:27 AM	#29 (permalink)
C33 Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Posts: 623	Be kind to yourself... I agree with the fact that porn is a masturbatory tool. Maybe if your bf would take only 1 minute to get his pleasure when with you, you would not like it at all, so what he might be doing is using porn as titillation for masturbation and "release" his sexual energy in a way that is pleasurable for him, while not being an insult to you=not making you happy! That might be one aspect of the porn watching. I would start getting worried if he would sexually withdraw from you in order to watch porn, if porn became an addiction. You don t say if this is a daily practice and how many hours are devoted to porn. Is it taking away from your time together? I suggest, like another poster did, that you humor him on the situation. I also suggest you dress up like a full fledge porn star and walk OUT the door in such an outfit, like you are going out by yourself to a bar ... Let s see how he reacts when his fantasy comes to life... Maybe, also, he secretely wants you to be more sexually agressive towards him... Maybe he thinks your sexual needs could never meet his ( somehow, there is a myth out there that men want it more than girls...), so he turns to porn to satisfy his needs, without him physically cheating on you. The saddest thing about porn, IMOH is that it is fake, and that the actors seem to be emotionally and sensually cold and bored. The spectacle of people having sex, looking bored and uninvolved is the saddest thing about it, again, IMOH. If your boyfriend shows love, care and interest towards you, I would not worry too much about it, and would focus on my own sexuality and enjoyment by finding personal ways to enjoy my body. Maybe it would mean pamper yourself, on any ways to feel good in your skin.