Exactly!
It's like knowing as a father that your child would be happiest going to college. If your child then says: "I want to become a singer!", are you going to deny him the right to follow that passion (or whim) or are you going to say: "Sure, go do it!" and support him in his goals of becoming a singer and then once, if, he comes back on his decision and decides to go to college, support him equally in that and say: "Sure, go do it!"
True love is being able to let go. I can also recall some story in the bible that mentions welcoming the return of the prodigal son or something.
Damn, I think I might be becoming a religious fanatic! That's the second time I've referred to the bible today.
Oh yeah, Dan, on the don't count calories thing. What's up with that? Do you think it's good advice to tell someone who wants to get out of debt not to keep any records of what he spends but just to work harder and make more money??