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Originally Posted by Velvet  Porn is just sex minus intimacy. |
I think this sentence is the key to understanding most men's relationship to porn. I view it myself from time to time, but I've always wished I had the discipline not to. In reality, though, I find that I need the release every once in a while. The point I'm making, however, is that since you're subtracting the intimacy from the sex, by association you can subtract any connection between the porn and any other intimate relationships in a man's life. One has nothing to do with the other. It's a pure sexual release, nothing more. You can certainly lessen his need for the porn by following some of the other suggestions posted here, but if you're comfortable with your existing sexual relationship, the presence of porn won't necessarily hurt anything. You would certainly be well within your rights to request that he be more discreet, however. Personally, I always "clean up" after myself, electronically speaking.
On a related note, I'm really impressed with the quality and maturity of the postings here. Way to go, all!